I finally got hubby to talk to me last night. We would have liked to have his family here as well as my parents. However, when i have (or he has) asked in the past they wanted it at his parents or one of the girls (he has three sisters) houses'. So, we stopped asking. Our house would accommodate them all a lot better. It is almost twice as big (ours is 2200 sq. ft.) as most of their houses. There is 23 of them and they are rather large folks. One of them plays college ball and is 6'4" tall and weighs 330#.
So, hubby and I are making a compromise. If my Daddy gets a bad report tomorrow (praying it is good!) then we will eat with my parents at lunch and visit with his family late afternoon. Then eat with my bro and sil later.
If the report is good then we will stick with hubby's plan and eat with his family at lunch and my parents (and bro and sil) at supper.
Thank you all for your advice and suggestions!!!